When he first saw me on Skype, He asked his sister, “Isn’t she a bit chubby?” And so when he ended up with chubby ol’ me, he called me his “Baby Ching ching”, short for “Baby Tabachingching!”
When we got married, he realized that not only was I chubby, I’m also very talkative! I have a rebuttal for everything. I can talk for hours. And I will debate my way to victory at any given time.
So the chubby wife with a big butt got a new term of endearment: “Baby Duck”. Short for “Baby Dakdak!” When the yakking becomes too much, Baby Duck levels-up to “Dens-moncita/ Demoncita!” :P
But even if I am chubby and talkative, he still promised these things to me when we got married–
Full transcript of his vows:
“To my lover, companion, friend, and my greatest challenge– I am your biggest fan. I believe in your dreams and I promise to nurture them.
I promise to support and encourage you. But most of all, I promise to cherish you.
I promise to put God first in my life, because He’s the only one who can help us make it together in this wonderland.
I love taking care of you and I will do that forever. I love you more than I love myself and I commit to holding your hand no matter where life may lead us.
I love you, Babe-oh!”
Yes, “Babe-oh” is for when he doesn’t feel like teasing the Baby Duck. :) My first reaction when he finished saying his vows: “That’s it?! Mine is back-to-back?!” (Referring to the bond paper I was holding!) Considering how long my speech was compared to his, I’m thinking maybe the Baby Duck title is well-deserved after all! :)
Here’s the transcript and video of MY wedding vows:
“Mike, I could have met you 5 years ago when your sister was my intern. I could have bumped into you when we were both working at the same mall in Manila. But God did not make that happen 5,4, or 3 years ago. He made us go through the grind first. Pinahirapan muna tayo! He gave us the time to grow and learn about resilience before He allowed our paths to cross.
He made us meet years later when I was already taking up my Masters in London. My MBA. “Mission accomplished!” said my friends because for them my MBA stood for Maghanap ng Boyfriend Academy (Find a Boyfriend Academy) and I found you.
Our story is proof that sometimes, when we think God is giving us a hard time and making us wait, He is really just seasoning us for bigger and better things to come.
And because of that, we already now know how to love boldly and courageously.
Without you knowing, He was strengthening you so that you are now more patient to close the cabinets I have left open. To take the trash out when I don’t want to get my hands dirty. And to finish the odd-tasting meals I’ve tried so hard to cook. ;) And for that, I am grateful!
Zürich to London to Manila. How could we have done it if we didn’t have the approval and the provision of the Man above?
Our matchmaker is the very God that is keeping us together now. And this is why I know that I owe it to Him to honour you; be kind and gracious to you. Be less of a “demoncita” to you.
You don’t know this because I don’t make it obvious. But sometimes, when I fight with you, I feel guilty immediately after especially when you do not engage. I think to myself, “How can I demand for more from this handsome and thoughtful guy?” You who have made me feel like I’m the girl worth coming up with creative surprises for! You who have made my life more Facebook and Instagram-worthy. You who have made me radiate that kind of happy glow that no amount of makeup can ever achieve.
What others see when they look at you is perhaps your nice be-dimpled smile. But what I see is a generous person who knows no limit when it comes to showing how much he cares. You have more than 20 friends and family who flew in from Europe just to see you make the huge mistake of marrying me! That alone is already testament of your awesomeness! And that alone is enough reason for me to be proud and thankful that you have chosen me to be your wife.
Mike, I am allowing you to uproot me from my comfort zone. I will go wherever you lead me because I trust you 100%. It breaks my heart to leave my Mama, Papa and my only brother behind. But I find comfort in knowing that they are entrusting me to a responsible man.
I can make a lot of promises today. I can tell you I will be the best wife one can ever have. But I am a marketing professional. I will not over promise only to under deliver.
But this, I will tell you– I will always be that someone you can hold hands and see the world with. I will always be your cheerleader–through good games and bad. I will shop for nice work clothes for you until my feet hurt. You will always come home to a clean house and a good-smelling wife! And most importantly, I will give you my utmost love and respect. I will try to be the best version of myself because you deserve nothing less.“
We are already more than a month married now. And our second anniversary as a couple just passed. And everyday that I am being a wife to my husband, I realize that LOVE, no matter how people express it in words, is really in the simplest of things, moments, and gestures.
Now that we are married, all the more I see that love is fortified by doing little acts of goodness towards each other. It’s in the mundane. It’s in letting the other breathe first before you bombard him/her with silly requests. :) It’s in knowing when to speak. It’s in that touch that calms each other down.
I call him “My Balut” when he has his full beard on. “Mikey Monkey” when I find him goofy . I laugh at his college pictures when he was soooo thin and I question how on earth did he get girls with a face and body that looked like that?! Hahahahahha! I would tell him that I met him at his “best” and poor him, coz he met me at my “worst” (coz I used to be waaay thinner and I had a six-pack!) hahahaha so I got the better end of the deal! Hahahahaha!
Pet names and terms of endearment are usually romantic and cheesy. But the funny spot-on ones are the best for me because they stand for what love is really about especially in marriage. It’s about accepting each other, flaws and all! It’s about appreciating the love handles…or the lack thereof! It’s about having the ability to laugh at each other’s mistakes! It’s about finding amusement in the silliest of things! It’s about forgiving each other’s poor decisions and seeing things through…together.
’til my next post,